For coaches, consultants, and freelancers, the boundary problem is real. You're your own boss, which sounds like freedom but often means you're available to everyone all the time because there's no HR department to hide behind.

I learned this the hard way.

If you work for yourself, presence is basically a radical act. When your work lives on your phone, your laptop, your brain at 2am - switching off isn't just difficult. It feels impossible. And yet the inability to be present is one of the things that quietly makes freelance and founder life unsustainable.

I've been thinking a lot about this lately. Here's what I've been trying.

This one was written on Valentine's Day but it applies every day of the year. Especially if you're a coach or founder who has ever felt like no matter how much you do, it's never quite enough.

This was the first thing I ever sent to the Soft Work Society list. It's where it all started - the question that I still think about every day, and that shapes how I work with every client.